Monday, February 7, 2011

Authenticity Rising Part II: The Gift

Ashes, and the Phoenix


My previous post on Authenticity spoke to the shifts in our personal lives that I am seeing in 2011, as we are compelled to discard our illusions and live authentically. When I collect these shifts and experiences and look upon them through the lens of culture, I think I'm seeing some powerful effects.


When a fire is burning, it can sustain itself, or get bigger, only with the addition of more fuel, more wood. It can be hot and bright, and we can revel in the heat and the light.


But when the wood becomes scarce, the fire begins to dim. The center is still the hottest place. The edges cool first. And finally, when there is no more wood, the fire begins to burn itself out.

So it is with our unsustainable way of being.

The fire is beginning to dim. We have seen this occurring at the edges. Millions of jobs of this economy have vanished. They are not coming back. They were part of an unsustainable way of living.
There is not enough "wood" left to harvest, to rebuild this unsustainable fire.

At first, we all scramble to be closer to the fire. We scramble to once again revel in it. But soon we realize that the only way we can do that is to scratch and struggle to hold on to a position that is itself receding into the center of the fire.

We've seen over the past several decades what has been called "the hollowing out of the middle class". It's not a consequence of poor economic policy or bad governance. It is the harvest of our scratching and struggling. It is the inevitable consequence of our unsustainable way of living.


Those of us who have means - those who are "powerful" in this economy - ultimately use our struggling neighbors as a kind of fuel. Some corporations are using these very people, those of us who are struggling, as wood for the fire. And many of us, not seeing an alternative, are volunteering. Volunteering, in desperation, to be consumed.

Painfully funny and sad how we are called "consumers".
How things have changed.

Many of us with means are attempting to "hold on to what we have" out of fear of what is coming. We build a kind of fortress against the millions of our peers who we see struggling beside us, scraping and grabbing for the very resources we hope to use to keep our own (unsustainable) fires burning. Gated communities. Isolation. Willful dismissal of the needy. The rape and pillage of dictators gorging on national wealth.


No matter. The fire that burns unsustainably will consume itself everywhere, whether it is the central core or an ember off to the side. With no intervention, no redistribution of wealth or resources by revolution or government, all by itself. There is no gated community that will not also turn to ash.


In the end, that which is unsustainable will cease to exist.

And I posit that this end is visible; we're living in it now.


We have two choices. We can struggle and fight and claw our way to the center of the fire for a few more years (maybe long enough for us to live and then die by the heat of the flame - but then, what of our children, and our children's children?). This is the world we are used to, getting more and more cruel, more and more cold, more and more dense with "us" versus "them". More and more exclusive.


Or, we can step away from the fire. We can join hands. We can look around us, and contemplate our individual and collective gifts. We can see ourselves and every one of our peers as rich with gifts and talents. We can embrace one another.
We can stop struggling and start caring for one another.

We can start giving and asking.


"Ask, and ye shall receive." "Give and it shall be given unto you." This is Jesus at his most subtle. He's not talking about God doing all this by magic. He's talking about all of us, being humble enough to do it for one another.

All we have to do is start.


The sooner we start, the easier the transition will be - the less suffering will occur as the fire burns itself out. The more of us participate, the fewer of us will be consumed in the fire.


When the struggle to be near the fire has burned enough of one away, when one has suffered through the pain required to live an inauthentic, unsustainable life, perhaps this path becomes clearer (it seems to have worked that way for me, and I'm still trying to see it).

Perhaps it will not become clearer at all, and yet, if the pain of the old way becomes so great, one may have no choice but to walk away in a desperate search for something else.


I invite and encourage every one to try this alternative way. You won't be alone. Try to simply care, love, and ask. Stop struggling for what you think you want, and consider what you need. Let go of what is false, what is illusion, what is causing you pain. Consider what those around you need, and what gifts you have to give. Start giving and sharing. Care enough to reach out.

Be humble enough to ask around for help -- for yourself and for others.


(When you are ready.
I think it only works when you are ready.)

I believe this is how we will build the new economy. This is how we will build a new form of community. Simply caring for one another, rather than living in fear.

This is the Gift of the Phoenix.
It's right there. I can almost touch it.

Enough for now.
Coming soon - Authenticity Rising Part III: The Emerging Gift Economy.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

What Egypt Can Teach Us

Know Thyself

My friend and colleague HiC forwarded a link to T. Thorn Coyle's blog entry regarding what's going on in Egypt, and what we can learn from it.

Governance. Sovereignty. Order and opportunity. It all begins with the self. Self-mastery is not easy, but there is no more worthwhile endeavor.

Let's not waste the gift that the Egyptian people are offering us: An opportunity to embrace self-change and bring our best to the world. As we hold space for them and their aspirations, may we also hold space for one-another's, and our own.

And remember - the greatest gift you can give to the world is the gift of your own enlightenment.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

2011: The Year of Living Authentically

Authenticity Rising, Everything Else Falls Away

I've noticed something so far in 2011. I think it actually started just after the Winter Solstice. I've noticed it in my own life, but also in those around me.

For many people, the parts of ourselves and our lives that are not "Authentic" are falling away. For example, I see it in our career and job-hunting struggles. A conversation I've witnessed many times lately:

"I got laid off, and I can't find another job."

"Are you looking?"

"Yes."

"What do you want to do?"

"Well, I dunno. I really don't want to go back to what I was doing before..."

And no job appears. No job is going to appear, either. Because the work is not in sufficient alignment with this hypothetical person's highest purpose.

It's no longer a matter of "making money" - those kinds of jobs are both unavailable and unbearable. The economy is shifting underneath us, driving us (now, ever more ruthlessly) to our true purpose. We struggle (and have been, for some time now) to work at jobs that contribute to the illusions in our lives. We can no longer bear to feed those illusions. Our whole culture is desperate. But we're not desperate for a job - we're desperate for meaning, for wholeness, and for our personal truth. The whole economy is convulsing - wretching - from an overdose of illusion. The jobs we are looking for are jobs that feed the illusion. And the illusion is no longer sustainable.

This is the year many of us will have no choice but to drop our illusions. I sense that our illusions will be vomited out, purged, and, if necessary, violently wrenched from our lives.

All around me, I see this in the realm of relationships as well. The ability to stay in a relationship that is not authentic is quickly becoming unbearable. Wherever and whatever we have hidden from our lovers, family, or business partners, wherever we have allowed them to hide from us, wherever the real truth of who we are, what we REALLY want, and what we're willing (or unwilling) to give has been purposely (consciously or unconsciously) hidden, wherever there is this subtle form of deceit - that is becoming unbearable.

We have really only two courses of action here. We can continue to live in an illusion as it becomes more and more painful, leading to the unavoidable destruction of the relationship. Or we can stop reinforcing the illusion, and begin the hard, embarrassing, and painful work of telling the truth, while trying to avoid judgment. The relationship may still end, but there's a chance that it can transform into one based on authentic needs and honest, unapologetic service to those needs. But it will be irrevocably changed.

I am finding that the work of embracing authenticity is hard; devilishly subtle at times. And yet it's extremely rewarding. I've developed some techniques, some questions, that illuminate the illusions. They make me uncomfortable. They make me want to run away. Sometimes, they make me confused about what I really want and who I really am.

But staying with the discomfort and gutting it out is actually the least painful way to move. And it's the only way to move forward.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Website Seeks Passionate, Talented, Patient Lover...

Firefly Willows Website as Cinderella

We have been neglecting our website since our early operating days. It's time she received the attention, respect, and love she deserves.

Firefly Willows is a beautiful, amazing, and emerging place, filled with compassionate healers, exotic scents, and fascinating, interested people who are exploring the world with wonder in their eyes. Our website should reflect that adventure.

Firefly Willows wants to be a gift to our community of healers and seekers. It wants to be a home, a refuge, a sanctuary, and a garden. A safe place where we can all learn to shine our inner light. Our website should reflect that intention.

Are you the person who can bring our website to life? Can you help her bloom into the radiant creation she can be? Do you have the time, skill, and interest to love her enough?

Are you her artisan, her gardener, her lover?

If so, please contact us at info@fireflywillows.com

Monday, January 17, 2011

Personal Sovereignty Takes Root

I just bounced across a blog by my friend and colleague Cassandra Rae. Entitled Business Mind Serves Spirit Mind, it's a great glimpse of a passionate, spiritual person realizing the full portfolio of tools she has at her disposal to create the reality she's called to.

Personal sovereignty is, for me, the key to a full, unencumbered adult-hood. Choosing to be fully aware, awake, and responsible for all of my energy, all of my gifts, all of my destiny. I am still acquiring it and embracing it, and it feels great (and absolutely right).

I sense Cassandra reaching the same moment.

It's a delightful, powerful, enthusiastic read. Thanks, Cassandra!

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

I am

A Meditation.

I am Love and Compassion.

I am Vitality and Health.

I am Wisdom, Courage, and Strength.

I am Light and Life.

I am Joy and Abundance.

I am Laughter and Playfulness.

I am Passion and Strength.

I am Truth and I am Beauty.

I am Integrity.

I am all these things.

I am these things in the presence of tragedy, sorrow, and pain.
I am these things in the presence of sadness and loss.
I am these things in the presence of fear and dislocation and despair.

I am all these things.

Because I choose.

I choose.


This meditation came to me just the other day, mostly in this form. It felt good to recite silently and aloud. As I have written it, I've extended it a little bit -- it still feels good.

I'm thinking about it's veracity. Can I be all these things, even in the presence of the challenges that we all face? I suspect I'll revisit this topic in the months to come.

Monday, January 3, 2011

Aaaand...we're back!

Well. That seemed like a long break. I took some time to hang out with my family and relax and not think about work or blogs or schedules or newsletters. It was a great relief. (Perhaps you are all relieved, too? ;-)

We had a wonderful Winter Solstice ceremony here at Firefly Willows. We had a full house, and I was very humbled and pleased by the amazing people who came to celebrate with us. Quiet, gentle, deep, the Winter Solstice is a "thoughtful" time (for me, anyway). I was grateful for the company of my new community.


I typically spend some time writing on New Years Day, reflecting on the past year and musing about the year to come. This year, I wasn't quite ready to write. I was having too much fun with family to take the solitary time required. I think I'll probably engage this weekend. I look forward to what I'll discover in the process.


Do any of you folks write in your journals with particular fervor around the New Year?

Well, anyways - it's a new year. Firefly Willows looks like it's about to really blossom, thanks to the amazing talents and hard work of our little team. HiC (formerly at Inner Journey) has joined us as a Tarot reader , and has also taken on our event coordination role. Wow, is that a big improvement. It's very exciting for all of us here - so much going on! HiC is a real gift to us. Check out the
new event calendar - very fun!

Speaking of gifts, please come by and say hello, and tell us what your gifts are. We're always looking for talented people to be part of our community. As a healing center, our goal is to connect and communicate with the community at large. The more the merrier (and the more powerful our gifts become). We're a community of healers serving the broader community of seekers. Don't be shy - tell us what you're about, what you need, and how we can help. We'll see if we can put things together to serve all.

For me, 2010 was a year of exploration and adventure - leaving high-tech and starting on this new path. Wow. Hard to really absorb how much change I've been through.

2011 promises to be a year of release, of letting go of expectations, of embracing gifts (our own and those that are offered to us). The old ways may work for a bit longer; while they do, it's a good time to get in some practice with new ways of being.

I feel like a big transition is coming. Perhaps it will be challenging, but it doesn't have to be hard or sad. Frankly, I'm very excited. I think a new day, and a new way, is just around the corner. Let's create it together!


I offer gratitude, love & blessings to all, and deep wishes for a wonderful, passionate, inspired 2011.